Hello again, I don’t know if anyone has covered this
subject or if they have give any helpful advice. Well I am here to write about
my experience of getting over depression when unemployed. I know I haven’t been
unemployed for long, but being without money is hard to deal with during these
hard times. I have found that my focus is best focused on goals. I set up daily
goals to accomplish and it makes me feel better about myself and what I am
doing here on earth.
See, I have
done research that men have a link to depression when they lose their job. It
is part of their DNA to want to provide and for their self worth is connected
to having money. When they don’t have money then it brings their self-esteem
down. This is true for women too. Women are the same, if we don’t feel like we
are doing something whether it be for our job, our man, or kids then we don’t
feel like much. Anyways, back to my goals. I found out that being goal oriented
helps keep up my self-esteem. Something I know I can accomplish and be happy
about without it affecting my personality for a job interview. My types of
goals are physical, mental, job related, in spiritual, behavioral, relational
and personal goals. I will explain each one in detail and why it is helping me.
My physical goals are to health keep up my strength,
physical health, and food intake. What I mean by keeping up my strength is that
any job that requires me to lift a certain weight limit then I try to work my
goal to that limit and then over that limit to make sure I am able to work that
job. I also want to make sure my physical health is in good standing for when I
go for an interview or to meet someone. I have wanted to lose weight for some
time now. So, I set a goal for a physical activity I enjoy doing and work to
reach it by a certain date or before that date. I like to learn about health
food and what to do for food intake. For example, write a food journal to make
sure I am not over eating in my unemployment situation. So health is important.
My mental health is very important. The one thing
you don’t want to look like when you go for an interview is to look desperate
or needy for a job. Mentally you don’t know you are saying or giving off signs
that you are desperate for a job, but you can. So to keep up your mental state
of mind is to do stuff that helps you keeps you happy. For me, I am working on
my confidence. That is a mental exercise all on it’s own and employers will
know if you don’t have the confidence they are seeking they can read it off
you. I also do things that make me happy like work on art work, and read books
I have wanted to read for a long time. Also singing helps, reading and hearing
positive affirmations help too. Just keep yourself in a happy mind set and the
employers will see it too and better chance of getting that job you want.
Job related information. If you are in a special
field like technology, medical, accounting or any other then I suggest
studying. Yes, I said study. The reason I say to study is because you can be up
to date on the most recent technologies or methods to use in your field. You
can build up your portfolio and update your resume with the most up-to-date
work in the market. Employers want the most up-to-date information and
knowledge. You could also go back to school if you want to change your
situation, further your further/career or just change careers completely. If
you graduated like me then I just suggest learn from old books that you own and
learn things you overlooked or missed during school.
Spiritual (if you’re spiritual), this helps to
connect with a higher power, god, Jesus or any other religion you part take in.
It is good to connect to something other than yourself. I just know that having
this connection for me is a good thing. It helps me grow as a person and I feel
like I have a purpose on this earth. Some kind of impact I will leave behind
for the better and I can help do that with the church. If you’re not with a
church then you can do activities that make you feel better too.
Behavioral is another important thing. This deals
with confidence and how you treat people. Now I am learning this myself because
I am learning physiology, human behavior and how to read a situation. Also I am
learning how to build confidence. An employer wants a confident worker. They
also want to know you can get the work done and to work with people. So
learning how to treat people will help you in finding a job.
Relational relations are important with find a job.
Relational are community/friends/family they can help you get through the tough
parts of your life, which you feel is right now. With the right friends they
will motivate, inspire, and make you feel good about yourself. They can bring
your spirits up when you are down and also keep an eye out for hiring signs for
you to apply too. Family can help you with money (if they have it) with your
bills and get you back on your feet. They may also know people and making
connections with family or in your community it will help. Any help find a job
is good.
Personal goals are good to have. So besides what I
have listed up above, I have found out that having personal goals can help you
get through the day better. They can be daily, weekly, monthly and yearly
goals. Mine are usually daily and yearly. I go by with each day with a plan
then if something comes up I work around it. I also have had yearly goals for
myself since I was in my teen years. The list gets changed every year and
sometimes things get done, but more gets added. See I am a geek/nerd. I love to
learn and to explore, so I add things I did and learn something new. I think
everyone should want to learn. This world is huge and learning is knowledge and
knowledge is power. So go out there and learn.
Well, I hope this has been helpful. This is just
what I know and have experienced to get me through my depression and it helps.
Please if you have any comments please leave them below and if you had a
different experience to get you through then please tell me. I would love to
hear. Thanks for reading.
